It’s easy to get angry about situations, in fact it’s easily done we’re all humans but sometimes you need to pick the right moment when it’s appropriate to react, or whether the situation is even worth it.
I feel like the way to find your inner peace is to first, truly find yourself. Truly discover what you like, what makes you happy and keep learning things about yourself. You’ll be shocked with what you discover, it could be the smallest things that have an impact on your happiness. Such as a clean, tidy room. A fragrance, the style of a room, a book, a type of music that you love. The list goes on.
By identifying what makes you happy, you will know what to draw yourself towards, and by making yourself happy especially in your own home and for example getting excited about going home to read that book you’ve fell in love with, your energy is already happy and uplifted because you have something to look forward to, something to enjoy.
Hopefully you will get to a point in life where all you want is to be at peace, be happy 80% of the time. Of course it’s not possible to be happy 100% of the time. We’re humans we have these emotions, but see past what the situation is, look deep into it. For example..
My dad, I used to have so much anger in the way he deals with situations. How he just works and comes home and there’s no further communication. And that was his role in the family home but I wasn’t satisfied. He wouldn’t be aware of what each of us was doing and the only one that seemed to care would be my mum. Unless we needed help finanally or something very serious was happening he wasn’t involved and this was a man who lived with us. I now have a depth of understanding why he is the way he is, not giving him an excuse, but the way he was bought up and the effect his peers and family had on him made him tough. The mindset “you have to just get on with it”. So I now understand why he is the way he is.
My main point to my example is look deeper into the situation not just see it black and white. There’s a reason why people or situations occur, because of the individuals personal values and beliefs, and their own justifications as to why the outcome has turned out to be.
There’s no point getting angry over situations which you can’t change. Talking about the issue and letting go of this held in anger, will help relieve your feelings, but being angry and acting upon that anger won’t be damaging anyone other than yourself (and perhaps others around you).
If there’s someone in your life that makes you angry, upset or makes you feel bad in whatever way, if it’s possible the best way to deal with this is to distance yourself so you’re not taking in their negativity and their negative energy. As I’ve wrote in similar posts it’s hard to do this if they’re family, but whether they are or not you need to be and feel uplifted by those around you and if that means cutting them out of your life then so be it.
Once you begin to feel happier and uplifted 80% of the time, anyone or anything that disrupts this, you will notice instantly and you may be strong enough to distance yourself straight away because of the high you get from being happy.
Just remember this is your life, be selfish if you need to (but in a good way), make yourself happy and don’t feel bad if you don’t want people in your life who drain you or play victim about things but don’t want to change their life for the better.
Another way to find your inner peace is to practice meditation. I used to roll my eyes when meditation got bought up cause I didn’t see how sitting there in silence and being still can possibly help you. But it changes your brain the more you meditate which you can read about it here, and you feel more relaxed, and can let go of all the stresses that you’ve had to deal with during the day.
Find time to meditate even if it’s once a day for 5 minutes, if you do this everyday you’ll get better and focusing and silencing your overactive brain. It’s so effective especially if you over think, you’re gaining control over your body. If you’re unsure how to start meditating here are some beginner guides.
Do your research on the law of attraction and how positive thinking can really change your mind. It’s positive and will make you feel so much better. I love to think that ‘we’re spirits having an human experience’ so whatever vile situation comes up, depending on what it is, of course it’s natural to feel negative and be angry about the situation, but within two days or a few days later things resolve 9/10 of the time so it’s always wasted energy when I get angry, and also I’m feeling calmer much sooner than holding a grudge about whatever’s happened.
I hope you discover your inner peace and feel much happier.
Lots of love,