MY BABY’S ROUTINE | PARENTING | LIFESTYLE | JUNE 2016

When I was pregnant I was obsessed at looking at routines online because you think whilst your pregnant “how am I going to do this?” “How will I know what my routine is?” Trust me you will!

For me a routine is very important with my son. It allows me to know where I stand, what I’m doing for the whole day and my baby is in a brilliant mood.

Just bare in mind, my child is 4 months old and I am 4 months experienced in parenting. This will be frustrating to read and to follow with a newborn as they’re more needy and feed more regular.

If things are out of line such as bath time, he gets a little fussy and now he distinguishes between day time and nighttime, and goes to sleep for 7 hours before he wakes up ravishingly hungry, and then goes back off to sleep for another 2/3 hours. 

Also bare in mind routine always switches, sometimes things are out of line or are different, this is just what happens on average. Every baby is different so trial and error is a good place to start.

DAYTIME:

My first feed with him will be around 5am or 6am or even 7am. He will wake up hungry, and still tired and I will feed him straight away and he will go back to sleep for another two or three hours. This is perfect for me because I can either choose to go back to bed or get up and start my day which I normally do. This gives me time to shower, eat breakfast, get his daytime clothes ready and just get the whole day started. 

Once he wakes up finally around 8am, 9am or 10am, I’m normally awake before him and I greet him and speak to him so he wakes up really happy and excited for the day. I think it’s easier when your there to comfort them when they wake up. Sometimes my baby has woke me up screaming out of no where, so when you see them just waking up, talking to them is reassuring. 

I take him downstairs to get washed down or top-and-tailed. I wash him down using Johnson products, such as top-to-toe and johnsons baby bath everyday cleansing. I use baby powder on him because he’s a chunk, and has a lot of rolls I like to make sure I’ve got rid of any moisture that could cause him painful sores. It makes baby’s skin super smooth.

After his wash down, I feed him and sometimes he decides to take a nap, 7/10 he will take a nap. If not we play on his play mat until he wears out and eventually takes a nap.

He will nap up until around lunch time hours when he’s hungry again, so I will feed him and play and interact with him. 

AFTERNOON

Around 2pm I try to aim to take him out for a walk around the block just for fresh air and sanity! He’s very alert and loves to observe the scenery. I talk to him show him flowers, we listen out for the birds. I want him to know how beautiful life is. 

When we get home, he’s either knocked out by the fresh air and naps for an hour and half, or half an hour Or he’s hungry again. So I will feed him and then interact and play with him.

If we haven’t been out I just play with him and help him with rolling over and tummy time as that’s very important for development. I also take him out the back garden to listen to birds and show him scenery if the weather is decent. 

I also distract him by taking him in different rooms in the house. He finds that really fascinating and loves the different patterns on the walls.

EVENING

Bath time is at 6:20pm. When in the night garden comes on. He loves the programme and focuses more when he’s in the bath. I’m unsure why but it actually does tire him out. I use Johnsons bath time bubble bath lavender, and once he’s out the bath I use the Johnsons baby powder nighttime blend which is amazing and smells delicious. I highly recommend Johnsons nighttime products they actually work and help promote bedtime. They smell delicious too.

After dressing him which will bring me up to around 7pm, I will feed him again and he will take his last light sleep nap for half an hour or an hour.

I would potter around while he’s asleep, making sure things are clean, ready for bed time, his sheets are changed and my bedroom is clean and cosy for him. 

Once he wakes up from his nap at around 8pm I read to him, talk to him softly so he knows it’s night time and wind down time, not hyper and active, which he loves to coo back to me and look at my expressions. 

We cuddle and watch in the night garden on BBC iPlayer until he gets tired. At that stage I feed him upstairs in my bedroom at 9:30pm/10pm/11pm, with his two night lights on and he will drift to sleep. His favourite night light is the Chicco goodnight stars projector. He settles on my chest and is more comfortable there, so I stay with him on my chest for 10 minutes so I know he’s in a deeper sleep, then I put him in his Chicco next 2 me crib which is amazing if your breastfeeding.

During the whole day as he’s breastfed, and he feeds on demand. There’s no timing or knowing when he will want a feed. 

I hope you’ve found this useful, if you’re anything like me I researched routines and information to help him go to sleep. I’m considering writing a newborn routine but saying this you and baby are both discovering each other and life with parenting so I think getting a routine would be important after 2 months. It’s good to implement it from early but it’s perfectly normal if baby is not sleeping throughout the night, my child only began this at 3 months.

Thanks for reading,

Louise x

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SINGLE MOM POST | JUNE 2016 | LIFESTYLE

During my pregnancy, I was so terrified to become a single mother. I didn’t want to burden my mom, I didn’t want to burden anybody. I thought that this is my responsibility so I have to do what’s best and bring up my son the way I would like him to be brought up, I would want to do this by myself because I was the one who got pregnant and it is my responsibility. 

I knew when I found out I was pregnant when me and the father had different views on abortion and keeping the child that I would be a single parent. Not just by that, it’s like I knew deep down and I accepted it and come to terms with it. I was okay with it some days, some days I just wasn’t okay because it’s a huge life change in your life. But I made sure that I was prepared every way possible when he arrived. 

Having said that, my mom does offer her support when I need it. If she can see I’m tired she will take him shopping with her for half an hour, she will bath him for me while I have a nap. The little but helpful things really do help a lot when you are a single mother. It’s okay to take support when it’s offered, and it’s also okay to ask for support by others that are happy to help out. When you’re a single parent a good support system is needed whether this will be authorities such as your health visitor or family nurse, your family members, friends.. Anybody that are genuinely happy to help.

It is hard sometimes because I’m very protective and picky when it comes to people looking after my son and he’s never been out of my sight yet because I feel that he’s too young and I wouldn’t be comfortable with it – I mean this as an over night thing – of course my mom taking him out for the day is the only thing I’m comfortable with, but the first few times I was erratic. Which was pathetic, since she’s had 3 children herself. I know nothing would happen to him, but it’s just an urge to hear that he’s okay and happy.

It’s also important to know that things will work out and things will be okay. No matter how hard you think it is at the time, in a few months time will that problem still matter?

If the problem is to do with the child’s father it’s good to know where you stand legally, such as putting him on the birth certificate, what rights they’re entitled to which you can read about here. Also, if he isn’t paying a penny towards your child and who you can contact and get involved which I will link information about that here. If he isn’t seeing the child as much as he should be for example if he’s drifting in and out of your child’s life, offer a contact centre legally so it’s logged down that at least you have tried. 

At a contact centre the parent has to visit there once a week sometimes more depending on what is discussed. If they’re not going to listen to you and cooperate then definetely go down the legal route in case they choose to get authority involved claiming you’ve stopped them seeing their child. It’s best to have it logged down that at least YOU have tried. 

If it’s a situation where you’ve had no choice but to become a single parent due to circumstances e.g. Domestic violence, counselling and help from authorities will be amazing. Organisations such as women’s aid are fantastic. Even going to visit your doctor and explaining to them the situation, they are able to refer you to different services and it’s all confidential. 

There is no point necessary to shout at your child if he’s screaming, if he’s not going to sleep, if he’s not cooperating. It’s not their fault. They’re getting used to this crazy big world they’re not doing these things on purpose and they want to be close to you. Just offer support and understand that they will never always stick to the same routines due to growth spurts, teething and other factors.

Being a single parent at 19 going on 20 is completely different to what I expected in a positive way. I would of thought it would be harder than what it is but saying this I’m only 4 months in. I’m happy with the way I’m doing things, I’m happy my son is a healthy happy bundle of joy and I’m so in love and embracing motherhood. There’s no point crying and running from the situation, you have to make the best of things not make it your excuse to let them down.

Everything happens for a reason, and my angel was a gift from God and I will do him proud no matter how tough things get.
Louise x

BENEFITS HIGH BEAM HIGHLIGHTER REVIEW | MAKEUP REVIEW

I purchased the miniature version of the high beam as there was an offer at boots “3 for ¬£15” or it might of been 4. I will lead a link to the boots benefits page and the offer should come up if it is still available. 


The product reminds me of a nail polish, when you unscrew the lid it is attatched to a brush where you can directly apply on your face, and the highlighter is the liquid in the bottle which you dip the brush into which makes it more practical compared to powders, I get it everywhere! 

FIRST IMPRESSIONS: 5/10 I was in two minds when I tested this product, I couldn’t work out if I liked it or not. I think it’s important to blend the product properly and dab it around the area, not just the area that you actually applied it on if you applied it directly to the skin. 

Another way to put the product on would be from the sponge then onto your face, or your finger tips. I find that the highlighter is more effective when applying the highlighter directly onto my skin from the brush but in doing this, if you draw just a line of the highlighter on your face and don’t blend it out properly it won’t look as effective. It will look like a shiny line on your face. So I had to discover ways in what made the highlighter more natural looking. 

WEAR: 5/10 I’m still deciding whether I like this product compared to the powder. I think that the powder highlighters can actually come up more highlighted and pigmented, but the liquid version of the high lighter like this one it blends it better but it’s not as pigmented and you have to apply more than once to get the full effect. You can also built the product, you can choose how highlighted you would prefer your look.

DURATION THROUGHOUT THE DAY: 8/10. The product lasts longer than powder it does settle on the skin better than the powder. 

OVERALL: 7/10. I’m still deciding but I do like the fact the product settles in my skin rather than it sitting on top of my skin, which makes the makeup come off easier. I like that you can build the product depending on how dramatic you want to look but as I’m addicted to highlighter I think that I find the powder versions more pigmented. This product is excellent for natural looking approaches to highlighter, so I think it is worth buying and testing for yourself.

(All pictures used I do not own)

10 THINGS I WOULD OF DONE DIFFERENTLY DURING MY PREGNANCY 

My beautiful baby boy is coming up to 3 months old. He’s happy, content and I’m getting the hang of parenting, routines and breastfeeding and he’s getting used to life outside the womb.

I was thinking for a few days of things I would of done differently and things I will do with my next pregnancy, and I thought it would be a good topic to write about. I don’t live to regret these things, I just would like to recommend some tips to those mothers to be out there.

1. ATTENDED ALL BIRTHING CLASSES – definetely number 1 here. Through out my pregnancy I was absolutely convinced that I would be strong enough to just deal with the pain. I would say “I would never embarass myself and scream and shout I think I’d be able to do it”. No. No. No!! You have never experienced such pain as contractions, it’s good to go to birthing classes to find out coping methods to deal with the pain such as breathing techniques, positions you can get yourself in. Instead of pacing round like a raging loonatic shouting and screaming for quiet!

2. SWIMMING – I would of loved to of gone swimming while I was pregnant. It’s supposed to be beneficial and your baby is supposed to like it in the womb. It apparent makes them kick more. I would of benefited from the excercise and I would of thoroughly enjoyed it. I’m not too sure why i didn’t attend swimming classes but I will definetely be doing this next time round.

3. TAKEN CARE OF STRETCH MARKS – this is going to sound ridiculous but I think because I’m young I believed that my stretch marks would magically “disappear” or “I will deal with them after I have the baby”. I just wasn’t phased by my stretch marks whilst I had a huge bump (my excuse), until that deflated. I’m now left with long purple stretch mark scars because I was so big. I think it’s important to start treating stretch marks and even if there isn’t any visible, treat your bump for stretch marks.

4. NOT OVER SPENT ON NEWBORN SIZES – seriously. I went overboard on newborn outfits but didn’t focus on clothes with 0-3 and 3-6 months and so on. My boy only spent 2 weeks in newborn, then another 2/3 weeks in 0-3 months and then he was in 3-6 months. He gained so much weight quickly and he is a long baby. Now he is in 6-9 month clothes and he has just turned 3 months old. So my advice would be to stock up on other clothes in the ranges 0-3, 3-6 months and so on. So if your baby does gain weight and grows fast you’re prepared.

5. I WOULDN’T OF HAD A BIRTH PLAN – I imagined my birth to be a water birth, no pain relief, I could move around breathe, labour my child whilst having the freedom to move and it would be peaceful with aromatherapy oils. NO! Not for me anyway. My case was different my baby was 3 weeks early and my blood pressure was sky rocket so i was strapped to a bed couldn’t move but it was so important because they had to monitor my heart beat, blood pressure and also he baby’s heart beat and check whether he was distressed so I literally could not move. Which was horrible going through every contraction but here we are. When I was going through contractions I couldn’t handle noise. HATED NOISE! Anybody talking I would be shouting Shhhhh! I’m not sure why I just couldn’t focus and get through the pain. Because I wrote a birth plan they kept interrupting me asking me “on your birth plan Louise..” I literally ended up saying “F%#* the birth plan!” It was too much. I ended up having pethadin and Gas and air which wasn’t too bad. I’m just saying anything happens on the day and the birth plan is the last of your worries. I would recommend just going with the flow but also educate yourself with pain relief and the different things your entitled to when you’re giving birth such as an excercise ball that you can roll on, a birthing pool and even running yourself a bath. I remembered the bath before I was given any pain relief and it was the first thing I did. It helped and was relaxing.

6. I WOULD OF BEEN MORE ACTIVE – throughout my pregnancy all I did was stay inside and sleep, or just lounge around. Realisticly I should of went swimming, I should of forced myself to go out of the house but I was just too scared of loosing him for the first 4 months and the other month I was too exhausted and I turned lazy. I couldn’t get out the house I didn’t have the energy to move. This has kind of turned into a good thing now he has arrived because I’m used to staying in the house. But I believe my stretch marks wouldn’t of been so bad, and I think my energy levels would of been higher. 

7. STOCKED UP ON FUTURE SIZED NAPPIES – This is important because you go through nappies like no tomorrow. My baby stayed in size 1s for a month then we had to switch to size 2s. The size 2s lasted for 2 weeks then we began putting him in size 3s because to me they seemed more comfortable 

8. TAKEN MORE VITAMINS – I felt really unhealthy during my pregnancy. I had 0% energy and I was just plain lazy but if I would of taken vitamins I believe I would of felt more energised and healthy. It’s important to make sure you have the essential vitamins to help the growth of your baby. I took 3 iron tablets when I could remember and for the first couple weeks I did take folic acid. In my third trimester I bought these vitamins from Asda. You can get them from boots but it just one tablets 

9. ATE HEALTHILY – cravings make you want everything and anything especially if you have morning sickness and can’t eat just anything. For me whatever I craved I got because I couldn’t stomach anything else and majority of the things I craved were really unhealthy. Although I sort of couldn’t help it I could of began eating healthier when my sickness wore off but I chose not to which has caused my severe stretch marks!!!

10. SPOKE MORE ABOUT MY WORRIES – it’s crazy when your in the moment of feeling really anxious and worried, you feel like you will never feel better you question yourself how life is going to be when baby is born, will this situation improve, will I be supported enough? How will I be able to financially look after myself and baby? In the end things always work out but instead of letting my head go 10 to the dozen I should of offloaded to somebody that I trust, maybe my blood pressure wouldn’t of been so high.